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1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men will become a victim of sexual assault. Recent developments in the 2016 election have rekindled the problem of sexual abuse in a National conversation. We’ve seen the video of Trump bragging about sexually abusing women, and we’ve since heard from many of the women he’s sexually abused. Donald Trump has referred to his sex crimes as “locker room talk.” Sadly this has added insult to injury to men that were already disgusted by Trump.
Trump has now led women to believe that other men actually talk like this in the “locker room.” This bothers me and all the good men in America. I’ve been in locker rooms all my life and I’ve never heard another man brag about sexually assaulting a woman. I’ve played well over a thousand rounds of golf, and visited the locker room. I’ve played basketball and soccer and have been in the locker room another 100 times with athletes playing those sports, and I’ve never heard a man brag about kissing a woman when he sees her, and not waiting for her consent. I’ve been in a health club locker room over 300 times and I’ve never heard a man talk about grabbing a woman in a way that would put him in jail if he was recorded doing what he was saying (grab her by the p***y).
On top of all of this, there was even an article from another man that claimed “many men talk like Donald Trump in private. And only other men can stop them.” There is so much wrong with this statement. Absolutely not! Many men don’t talk like Trump. As we’ve heard from a great many professional athletes this week, none of them relate to the notion that locker rooms sound like this. And let’s just get this straight… locker room is code for “men in private.” “Many men” don’t brag about sexually abusing women in private, locker room or not. The author of this piece believes that only other men can stop “it.” And that’s just not the case, everyone in society plays a role. In fact, women play just as much of a role if not even more of a role.
I believe the author of the above piece may have unfortunately conflated objectification of women and sexual predation. Objectification of women is rampant, that is certain. However objectification of women is nothing like rape. Both issues should be addressed, but Trump’s actions are criminal and objectification of the opposite sex isn’t. Yes, we should all work to value people for more than just sex, but that’s not anywhere in the realm of using your power to sexually abuse someone else. And let’s leave objectifying others there for now.
Back to the issue that Donald Trump brings up (sexual assault and evil towards women). Trump is a misogynist, he calls women names simply because she exposes his disgusting views(Alicia Machado) or his moronic thoughts(Rosie O’Donnell). He thinks he can do whatever he wants to women and get away with it.
Thankfully almost none of you have ever heard a man talk like Donald Trump did on that tape when he admitted to sexual crimes. But we can all do something about this. Let’s agree to speak out much like this, let’s agree to make statements against his form of megalomaniac abuse. Let’s agree that on that first day of your life that you’re unlucky enough to be in the presence of an asshole that admits to sexual abuse, you say something to that jackass and make sure he/she knows just how strongly you feel about how small of a person they are.
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Now for a moment, let’s go back to objectification of the opposing sex. Both women and men are guilty of it, and although I don’t have a poll I would assume that men are guilty of it more than women. The article I referenced above incorrectly posited that only men can do something about it. It’s important for women to know that while some men play a role in the reduction of objectification, most men learn about the harm of objectifying women from other women. We often learn from hearing other women speak (youtube, tv, radio, etc…) or we learn from them telling us directly. We learn from women that it hurts to be objectified and that they feel gross when we treat them like they are simply sex objects. So women… keep it up. Let men know how it makes you feel, we’re listening and learning.
“You can not be President if you call someone a piggy.” – A 6 year old (as told to us by Michelle Obama)